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New Year Update

So I realize it's been several months again since my last blog. I guess previously, I was still feeling the pangs of the sorry excuse over a relationship I was getting out of, which had basically triggered and reignited all of my PTSD from my marriage and then some, and I really felt like I had to vent a lot, as well as offer people from worthwhile advice to hopefully spare them the nonsense I had to go through. I hope it has been helpful. According to a couple of readers, it has, and it means a lot to me that some of you guys have benefited from my efforts here. While we're still in the middle of a pandemic and things are not back to "normal as we know it, I can say things remain pretty good on this end. Surprisingly so, actually, especially if I really reflect on where I was a year-and-a-half ago, or 2 years ago. The only really bad things that have happened in the past several months involve having lost a couple of dear friends of mine, particularly both the husband and...
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Brave New World : Changes and Big Steps Made During the Quarantine

So it's been a few months since my last post, and a LOT has changed. We're still locked-down in the COVID-19 pandemipocalypse, and thankfully most of the people I personally know who've been affected (or INfected) have made it through, hoping no more casualties or suffering and that in a couple months we'll be looking at a possible vaccine to help us even better to avoid contracting or spreading the illness. But throughout the pandemic and all that comes with it, I've managed to not only maintain my work (via working from home remotely, which is AWESOME) and my relationship, but also have made some notable leaps as well. This is more of a personal update than anything, so bear with me, faithful readers... As I said, I'm still in the relationship I began late last fall, after having dated/been-used-by the serial-victim who almost killed her newborn child and who drained my soul and bank account leaving me nothing but regret. I have done my "cleansing" a...
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COVID-19 Quarantine Update

I've gotten a few emails checking in to see if I'm alive and well since I've been kinda' quiet the past few weeks, so I thought I'd post that yes, I am indeed alright, and have basically just been doing some "social media distancing" the past month because of all the crappy news, and honestly due to not only people acting foolish about the pandemic but also about the upcoming election. Lemme' 'splain with a post I shared with some friends on other platforms... ***WARNING: STRONG LANGUAGE AHEAD!!!*** ***SERIOUSLY, TURN BACK NOW IF YOU ARE OFFENDED BY STRONG LANGUAGE!*** ***OK...YOU WERE WARNED!*** I'm greatly disappointed in society, my country, the world in general right now, and I have been trying to limit my exposure socio-political idiocy. Not to mention ideological hypocrisy. And while we're at it, I've pretty much reached my wits end of reading posts by people being selfish, irresponsible and stubborn, not to mention gr...
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Putting Labels on the Relationship : Are They Required?

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We all have different perspectives and preferences when it comes to "what to call" that relationship. I mean, marriage is pretty simple. "My husband" or "my wife". Or "my spouse", in less conventional arrangements. But what if you're not married? Just "seeing someone", "dating" or "going together" as we used to say? Some people see the lack of labels as you're wanting a "no strings attached", or "commitment-free" situation (a "situationship" according to the kiddies). But that doesn't necessarily mean they're interested in "shopping around" or dating other people or anything, and doesn't mean they aren't exclusive. It actually is more likely to mean they don't want the obligation of having to attend family or work affairs, or mingle friendship/relationship responsibilities. Having no label means that there isn’t any pressure to be or act a cer...
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Social Distancing and Isolation : Keeping Relations Strong in Quarantine

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Here we are still under "house arrest" thanks to the COVID-19 virus, and still no end in sight to the madness, thanks to incompetent leadership, misinformed panic buying and obstinate mental midgets who feel this is still a joke not to be taken seriously. Between the people who are defiantly exposing themselves and others to the possibility of catching this disease and the useless, deranged pieces of garbage opportunistically gouging others for necessities, it's enough to trigger all the worst emotions: fear, depression, anger and hatred. This is not how 21st Century America is supposed to be. But here we are. Throughout this event our gregarious society has been relegated to this concept of social distancing at least, and at "best", self-isolation. If everyone would just do as suggested and would stop trying to push the boundaries of sanity or common sense, maybe we could get through this thing with few casualties and things will start getting back to nor...
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Wearing Green and Starting Fresh : Happy St. Patrick's Day in the COVID-19 US-of-A

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Sorry for yet another delayed post, guys. I've had a lot going on with a new musical project, and a lot of my personal time has been reallocated to other things for a bit, so I have been off my normal weekly Friday posting schedule. Anyhow, let's get to it... One year ago today, I embarked on a journey which started as an invigorating and new adventure but came sputtering to a miserable, embarrassing halt 7 and a half months later, having drained me of both money and some of my sanity along the way. Happy to say though, that today I'm in a far better "place" than I was a year ago. At least emotionally and mentally. I'll never get back the money I was bled of, or the time that was essentially wasted, but I'm coping nicely, all things considered. Just as I refused to let a simple failure due to---let's just call it--- "severe personality incompatibility" ruin me when it comes to the idea of relationships, I can't let the association ...
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Memoirs of Misery : Reading Through Past Relationship Correspondence

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Perhaps one of the greatest blessings or curses with social media, and all this electronic messaging stuff we do, is that thanks to most people's awkwardness and insistence on texting/messaging instead of talking, we no longer have to rely on hearsay or selective memories to remind us of past mistakes, or to prove our case in an argument which others have been made a part of. No, now we can call up that conversation, screenshot that S.O.B., and show the people what they need to see. It keeps us honest, and that's a good thing. But the downside to it is that going back and reading through messages sometimes invokes those old feelings you felt again, and I'm not talking about "good" feelings necessarily. Sometimes that anger is reawakened, or that heartbreak, or that mortifying disappointment.But you know what? Suck it up. Be thankful you ARE reminded of those missteps, so you won't make them again, or so you won't second-guess yourself. I'm still ...
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